Personal Story - Why We Need to Speak Our Truth

By Emma Suttie D.Ac, AP

I just had surgery to remove a lump in my neck. It was small (about the size of a dime) but had been there for almost 2 years. It revealed itself just after I had my daughter, and my OBGYN said that it was normal - the result of hormonal fluctuations - and that after I was finished breastfeeding, it would probably disappear.

Almost 2 years later, it didn't seem to be going anywhere, so I went back to him asking what we could do. He had a look and did a quick ultrasound with a machine he used for pregnant ladies in his office. He said it was nothing to worry about, but I might consider having it removed. I said yes, please.

To be honest, I hadn't thought much about this lump simply because I didn't have the time or energy to give it. I was raising 2 babies in a foreign land and taking care of them, as well as all the other things that life throws at you was all consuming. I believed my OB when he said it was a normal result of hormone fluctuations following pregnancy and birth - and I was certainly experiencing those in all kinds of ways - so I hoped one day it would simply disappear.

When it didn’t, and several people asked me what was that thing in my neck - I decided it was time to deal with it.

For the first time, I brought my focus to it - this lump in my neck - thinking about what it was, and why it might be there… and suddenly,

I made a connection.

Coming to Costa Rica

Two and a half years ago, my husband and I arrived in Costa Rica with our then eleven-month-old baby boy. The stresses of moving to a foreign country were overwhelming and continued to be so long after we arrived. When we got here, I found out that I was pregnant. I was happy, but the news added a new layer of overwhelming to the picture. I was now going to have to figure out how to go about the delicate business of having a baby in another country.

After a lot of research, I thankfully found a much loved and well-respected doctor. He was willing to deliver the baby at home, without medications and in water which was my preference. I was so relieved. He was less than an hour of where I was living, so I went to my monthly appointments, and everything with my pregnancy went smoothly and I anxiously awaited the arrival of our baby girl.

One afternoon, about 3 days before my due date (which was my birthday, amazingly), the doctor arrived at the house. He said he wanted to check and see how everything was going. We had a big Tupperware bin with an inflatable pool and all the doctor's gear by the door, waiting for when I went into labour. After the doctor checked me out, he said the baby was very low and he could touch the top of her head. He said she would arrive any moment now and that my labour would be very quick, just like my first.

We sat quietly on the couch and he seemed distracted and slightly uncomfortable. I offered some tea. Finally, he looked at me seriously and said he needed to talk to me about something. I said, “ok, of course” - my mind racing. What is going on?, I wondered. He said that he needed to go to a conference in the US - a gynaecological conference he goes to every year and that he had spoken to a colleague who would come and deliver the baby… at this point, his voice got very faint and I wasn’t listening… my mind was all over the place, trying to wrap itself around this new information. I came back and he was finished, looking at me expectantly.

I allowed myself to breathe for a moment and smiled. I said, “well, she is due any day now, when do you have to leave?” He took a deep breath and said: “in the morning”.

I am not exactly sure what happened after that except I felt a surge of emotions flood through me and everything was going in slow motion. I felt like I was on a roller coaster, being lifted up and down, losing my equilibrium. I suddenly felt quite sick and must have grimaced as the doctor said - oh, I think you don’t feel well. And then it slowly became clear. I said - “I think I am in labour.” He looked serious, and said, “yes, I can see that.”

At that moment, everyone scattered. My mother swooped in and took my son to her house (which was down the hill). My husband and the doctor disappeared, and I was left, sitting alone on the couch. Another contraction came and felt like a wave of pain smashing into me. I thought I would have a warm shower which might help the pain.

When I got out, my husband was there. I asked where the doctor was? I assumed he had gone out to his car to get something. He said - Oh, he left. I said, left?? What do you mean? Where did he go? He told me he had gone back to the city to get some things.

I sat hard on the couch, confused. Disappointed. Hurt.

"He left?"

He didn’t say a word to me. He didn’t check to see how far apart my contractions were. Talk to me to see how I was feeling. He just left.

Without going into details, what followed was an extremely intense, painful and scary labour and birth. My contractions became very intense and close together very quickly, and my poor husband was frantically blowing up the inflatable pool so that I could get into it and have our baby. The problem was, that because he was blowing up the pool, and the doctor was gone, I was alone. My husband would run in for a contraction summoned by my shrieks, then race out again and continue blowing up the pool. He never did get it blown up...

From the time of my first contraction sitting on the couch to the moment my daughter emerged was one hour and 20 minutes. It was the scariest hour and 20 minutes of my life. I had been alone through a process where I desperately wanted support and comfort, and there was none. I had no friends, and my only family were occupied and not able to help. The pain had been unimaginable, and I am sure this was intensified by my fear and anxiety. Both my husband and I had tried over and over to reach the doctor to ask where he was and were not able to connect to him.

When he did finally arrive, I was crouched on our bedroom floor, holding a screaming baby on my knees, shivering and in shock. I was not able to pull the baby up to my chest because the umbilical cord was so short it would not reach. It was quite a sight. It was almost half an hour after the baby was born.

The doctor helped cut the cord, deliver the placenta and cleaned up, then left. I was still in shock.

I didn’t hear from him for more than a week. I finally texted him asking if he would like to see the baby and make sure everything was ok? He wrote back saying yes, come in tomorrow.

When I went to see him, he acted like everything was fine. The emotions I was feeling were still so raw that I was on the edge of tears the whole time, being angry and hurt at the whole situation. The fact that he had not reached out since had only poured salt on a very open wound.

And here is the connection.

Everything is Energy, & Energy is Everything

In India, the Hindu’s believe we all have seven chakras which are centres of energy. One of them, the fifth chakra, resides in the throat. It is responsible for our ability to express our feelings, needs and desires. To speak our truths. To be honest with ourselves, and express that truth to others.


Here is a chart which briefly describes each of the chakras
Image from Andrew Noske

The symbol for the throat chakra

In Chinese Medicine, the emotions are actually considered a cause of disease.

In Chinese Medicine, there is an acupuncture point that I have used for this exact purpose for many, many years. It is called REN 22 and is located at the base of the throat, on the midline, in the depression between the two clavicles. Using this point clears any stagnation occurring there and helps the recipient to express themselves freely.

Ren 22 Acupuncture Point - From A Manual of Acupuncture by Peter Deadman

When Emotions are Unresolved

The pain and trauma of the birth of my daughter lingered, unresolved, and unexpressed. Shock was followed by a deep depression which has lingered and is still with me, like an uninvited friend.

Interestingly, I have been doing a lot of research on grief for a new project I am working on. One of the books I was reading was written by a woman who had lost her infant daughter, shortly after she was born. She never recovered from her death and ended up making a career counselling others suffering with traumatic grief - something she deeply understood. Her story was both heartbreaking and uplifting, and the book was filled with stories of her clients and the horrific stories that lead to their own grief. I found myself crying a lot reading those stories, and some of the times I tried to hold back my tears, something interesting happened.

I felt a pain.

A searing pain, and the epicentre was the lump in my neck.

My grief had literally manifested as a mass right next to my throat chakra.

 

I know this may seem far fetched to some people, and I understand. But from everything I know and have learned in my life and work, and the feelings that came when I made these connections, I believe this is what happened.

Many doctors visits, consultations, tests and ultrasounds later, I did have that lump removed in a surgery a couple of weeks ago. That process alone was an exercise in expressing what I needed and was very cathartic. The surgeon told me that the lump was in fact much bigger and went much deeper than expected, but that the surgery went well and they got everything out. A biopsy revealed that it was benign. Buddha bless me.

My husband tells me that after the surgery when I was still under the effects of the sedative, they brought in a little bottle and showed me the lump itself. He said I looked at it for a long time. I don’t remember anything from those few hours afterwards, which deeply disappointed my husband because he said he was being so wonderful, loving and attentive. Ha.

The Moral of the Story

So, why am I telling you this? I am sharing this story because I believe that it is relevant. I have seen so much of this with the people I know in my life and with my patients over the years. So many of us have things that have hurt us. Demons we are running from, pains that we dragging from our pasts into our present and things that are hurting us in our everyday lives, as we live them. It is unavoidable. It isn't always easy to express those feelings and the thing about our society is that many of us have never been taught how to do so. Emotional intelligence is so important for our health and wellbeing, and yet, so many of us struggle to become aware of how we feel, acknowledge how we feel, and then allow ourselves to feel it.

When I was able to finally take some time and think about this lump in my neck, then look back on what was happening in my life when I first remember it being there, I was able to make the connection. And the more I thought about it, the more obvious it became. This was a hugely painful event that I was not able to verbalize, even to myself. I was trying to be thankful for having a healthy baby girl and not focus on the negative. And this is what we are told. Be positive. Look on the bright side. And while that is all well and good, sometimes there are unpleasant things that are happening, and we must acknowledge that they are there and deal with them, too. I am saying this to myself (maybe more) as much as to you. But it was so clear, that it felt like a huge lesson from the universe, and I am passing it on in the hope that it may help you, too.

P.S.

 


Here is a photo of the scar. It will forever be a reminder of how important it is that I express
my feelings and speak my truth, to others, and to myself. 

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Featured image by

Matt Botsford


Why We Need to Unplug in 2019

By Emma Suttie, D.Ac, AP

Our Reliance on Technology

One of the biggest things that I have observed in the last year from people in my life and from my patients, is our reliance on technology, and specifically, our love of social media. I know that there has been a lot out there about the nefarious beginnings of platforms like Facebook and the information that companies like Google collect. And for many of us, this is the way we stay connected with the people in our lives. But, I have noticed that there is a growing sense of anxiety and depression in the population as a whole and I believe that this is because even though it may seem that through these social media platforms that we are all MORE connected, sharing every moment of our lives as they happen, we are in fact way LESS connected on a real, human level.

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The Dopamine Connection

What a lot of the general public doesn't know, but what the creators of many of the social media platforms that we use certainly DO know, is what dopamine is and how it drives our behaviour. So what is dopamine? Dopamine is a neurotransmitter - a chemical responsible for sending signals between neurons in your brain. Without getting too deep into the subject - which would be so easy and so fascinating - one of dopamine's responsibilities in the body is reward and reinforcement. A shot of dopamine causes us to be flooded with "feel good" chemicals. In evolutionary terms, this was designed to help us understand that when we found something that was good for us, like food or water, that those feel-good chemicals would help us to continue to seek out those things as we needed them to survive. In our present society, however, dopamine and its feel-good effects in our bodies have been used in ways that are no longer good for our health and wellbeing (in my opinion), and have caused an entire generation to be addicted to dopamine's effects.

 

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Dopamine and its powerful effects to make us feel good were well understood by the creators of many of the social media platforms that many of us enjoy, like facebook, twitter and Instagram. Instead of our brains releasing dopamine is a response to finding food or water, it is released when we get a like, a new follower or receive a chat from someone we like and admire. Many of us and especially young people with brains that are still developing have become so addicted to this dopamine hit that they are glued to their cell phones twenty-four hours a day, waiting for the next dopamine hit to flood their systems. Always wanting more. High levels of dopamine make us feel good, while lowered levels cause us to lose pleasure and live in a joyless state. In my experience with patients, this state is becoming more and more common in people of all ages, and I have seen rising numbers of people suffering with varying degrees of depression and anxiety, with many feeling isolated, sad and disconnected from the world and themselves. Were these not the feelings that social media was supposed to help us improve? It seems that their creation and implementation had slightly more sinister motivations than many of us realized.

Dopamine also is connected to addiction. The feel-good sensation that dopamine causes courses through our bodies when the alcoholic takes a drink, the smoker lights up and the gambler wins at the casino. The good feelings that surge through us when we get a spike of dopamine are highly addictive, and this is why so many people are addicted to social media, and losing touch with real people in their lives.

Social Animals

Humans are highly social animals, and our connections to other people are an important part of our mental, emotional as well as physical health. As human beings, we need human interaction. That is interactions with other people, in real life. Not chatting via text, or face time. When I was a teenager, my best friend and I would go out at least a few times a week for coffee. We would go to a variety of places we liked, get a coffee/tea and just talk. And we had a rock-solid friendship that weathered many years and hard times, and now that I look at it, I realize that it was because of these seemingly small things, that we made the time to spend time together and stay connected no matter what was happening in our lives. We were connected in a real sense, and I am so thankful for it.

Now, when I think about my own children - who are still very little - I wonder what their world and relationships will be like. One of the reasons we moved to Costa Rica is that things like family are very important here. People don't have a lot, but they value what they do have, and that is the people in their families and communities. There are constantly family dinners, birthday parties, baby showers and other gatherings going on, and this is how Costa Rican people spend their time, energy and money. They invest in each other. There is a huge social component to this culture, and that is one of the things that I really love about it, and I hope I can impart to my children so it will become important to them too. Because we are alone here, we do talk to grandparents on the computer to stay connected, but it is important to me that my children have real relationships with other children, and that they have the tools that they need to build and keep those relationships healthy throughout their lives. In this social climate, this is becoming more difficult, but to me, it is worth the effort and will be an investment in their psychological, emotional and physical health for the rest of their lives.

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The Disconnect

Social media is touted as the perfect way for us all to be connected. We are able to transmit everything that is happening in our lives, minute to minute to people all over the planet. It really is a technological miracle. The problem is, that in an attempt to connect us, technology has caused the population to be suffering from unprecedented numbers of anxiety and depression and perhaps most of all, loneliness. How could this be, if we are connected in a way that we never have been before in all of human history?

I think that one important reason is that social media allows us to put filters on things. Each of us is now able to show only specific things you want people/your friends to see. We are able, through the wonders of technology, to take photos wherever we are, take video of whatever is happening at every moment, and perhaps most importantly, cherry pick the experiences, images, videos, etc... that make our lives look enviable and extraordinary. To our friends, followers and fans, our lives can look as wonderful, fun and fulfilling as we purposefully "design" them to be. We are essentially creating our lives as we wish them to look to all the people we are connected to through our social media networks. And to the people who are connected to us, it may seem like we are living these amazing lives they could only wish to live, and these are the things that contribute to a lot of depression and anxiety in the population as a whole. Many of the images we see remind us that things with us aren't always so awesome, and why do others seem to be doing so much better?

Another disconnect is that because many young people are being raised in the age of social media, there is a disturbing trend that is beginning to emerge. Young people are having a harder time creating deep, meaningful relationships with other people. So many of their relationships are online, that they no longer know how to interact with people when they are right in front of them, and many report having many "friends" on social media platforms like Facebook, but not having many "true" friends that they feel they know well and trust. Like most things, the tools we all need to do things like create meaningful, lasting relationships are learned in practice. And we are practising less and less.

Connecting to Nature, and Each Other

There is nothing better for your body, mind and spirit than taking a walk outside in nature. It reminds us who we are and where we came from and gives us something that living in this technological age often doesn't - time to think. Time for our brains to relax and wander. And time to be in the moment. We live in an age of instant gratification. If you live in many places, you can go on Amazon, pick whatever your heart desires and it will be at your doorstep in 2 days! We can also binge watch any tv show or movie thanks to Netflix and other providers of media awesomeness. Back in the day, you had to wait an entire week for the next episode of your favourite show to air, but now you can binge watch every season, in a few days day if you are feeling adventurous (and don't have to work). Even things like dating, that often awkward process filled with intense emotions ranging from terror to intense twitterpation, has been reduced to an app. If you like someone, you can just write them a note, give them a like or rate their profile. Instant gratification. The thing is that, at least in my experience, the things that are worth having in life - like good friends, doing something that you love, kind, compassionate children, a beautifully prepared meal, a piece of art or anything that has deep meaning in your life takes work, and that takes TIME. It is an investment, and it is sososo worth it.

 

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Your Quick Guide to Personal Happiness - 5 Happiness Habits

By Emma Suttie D.Ac, AP

For many years I have been fascinated by the concept of happiness. Part of my fascination was personal, and the other was professional. I was seeing so many patients who were deeply unhappy and the interesting thing to me was that when I asked them what would make them happy, most of them had no idea. For many, it seemed to be the first time they had given the idea any thought at all. So, what is happiness? And why is it so elusive?

What is Happiness?

For something that we all seem to be after, happiness seems to be largely misunderstood and pretty difficult to come by for a lot of people. And when it comes to a definition of happiness, well I imagine that would be very different depending on who you asked. For our purposes, I will define it as a general feeling of well-being and joy about the totality of your life - not necessarily the details as those will be constantly fluctuating, but a general sense of wellbeing about your existence. If I were to ask you what would it take for you to be happy? Maybe a better question is - what does your life look like where you imagine your happiest self? This is an interesting intellectual exercise for sure, and one I often ask my patients to do to help them clarify what this scenario would look like for them.

In my experience, I see what happiness isn't. It is not something that can be acquired, some kind of external thing that one must chase after and get a hold of, never letting go. External things don't give you happiness, at least not a happiness that is grounded, meaningful and lasting. The way to happiness is within. And I think this is one of the reasons that we as a species, are largely so unhappy right now. We are taught, from a very young age, to seek everything we need in our lives - "out there". All the things we need to be complete, happy beings are out there in the external world. Good education, a better job, good relationship, nice house, fancy car - and so forth. These seem to be the benchmarks for success and happiness for many of us. But this is changing. There is a movement of young people growing up now who realize that those things often have nothing to do with true happiness and are seeking happiness, fulfillment, and connectedness within. And that is where we will all find it. There has been an explosion of interest in things like yoga, meditation, ayahuasca, etc... to more deeply understand ourselves and our world.

The Chinese Medicine Angle

In Chinese medicine, our ability to feel joy is seen to be an expression of our heart energies. But joy is only one part of overall happiness. In Chinese medicine, how you feel is an important part of your health. Each of the organs has an emotion associated with it to help determine which organ (or emotion) might be out of balance at any one time. If you are overwhelmed by anger and frustration, the liver is the culprit, if sadness is predominant then the lungs are to blame, or if fear and anxieties are making life uncomfortable then we must look at the kidneys for their role in these feelings. I believe that for a feeling of overall happiness and wellbeing that so many of us are striving for is to be achieved, it is balance that we must seek. And there is no better system to teach us to balance ourselves, our bodies, our emotions and our spirits, than Chinese medicine.

The emotions are a more ephemeral and therefore often more difficult thing to contend with, especially in our society with its emphasis on the physical and tangible especially when it comes to health and healing. Because of this, tools we can use to help us manage difficult emotional states or patterns are difficult to come by. Thankfully, Chinese medicine offers many ways in which we can both identify as well as manage and resolve our emotional hardships. Each organ's energies are at their peak in a specific season, so taking care of both the organ, its corresponding emotion and changing our behaviours depending on the time of year are some of the ways we can help to keep ourselves balanced. Changing the foods that we eat according to the seasons and our physical predispositions is another good way to stay in harmony, as well as some basic things like listening to our bodies - as they tend to tell us in subtle ways when something is wrong - taking care of ourselves on all levels, being kind, loving and nurturing to ourselves and others and working on self-awareness is especially important when it comes to dealing with emotions. So much of our demons and the things that hurt us are unknown to us. If we are really willing to do the work to discover our hurts and sorrows, that is the first step in shining a light on them and being able to process them and letting them go.

5 Happiness Habits

Below are some of the most powerful habits that, if you incorporate them into your life, will help you to have a happier experience and feel more joyful overall.

Gratitude

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Some interesting studies have taught us that so much of our ability to feel happiness is in our attitude. Many highly spiritual beings know this too. One way that we can really help to change our attitudes so that we may attract more positivity into our lives is by being grateful. Taking some time every day to focus on the things that you are grateful for, no matter how big or small, will help to literally rewire your brain, making it easier to think about and feel those feelings of gratitude in the future. A helpful exercise that will help you to literally rewire your brain (plasticity) is to take time every day to think of three things that you are grateful for. In doing this, your brain starts to retain the pattern of scanning the world not for negative things, but positive ones, helping to keep you in a state of positivity.

Positivity


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Scientific studies have shown that the brain works better when we are in a state of positivity giving us a happiness advantage. Here are some statistics from Shawn Achor's TED talk (which is embedded below):

  • When we are in a positive state the brain performs better in terms of intelligence, creativity and our energy increases
  • Positive brains are 31% more productive than brains that are negative, neutral or stressed
  • When we are positive, our brains are 37% better at sales
  • When in a positive state, doctors are 31% faster and more accurate at coming up with correct diagnosis

An activity to help you to become more positive is to journal about one positive thing that happened to you (or that you witnessed) that day. Writing about the experience allows your brain to relive it, and releases powerful hormones like dopamine, which not only makes us feel good, but also turns on all the learning centres in the brain.

Conscious Acts of Kindness

Another exercise that you can work into your daily routine is to reach out to one person in your social network and tell them that you appreciate them and why. This only compounds the exercise above and will help not only you to feel grateful, but also spread the goodness around by making the person or people you reach out to feel grateful as well.

Meditation

Meditation has so many benefits to our health and wellbeing, that it is something I would recommend for absolutely everyone, especially living in our hectic culture. Meditation allows us to slow down, relax and reconnect with ourselves in a way that many of us have forgotten. Giving that time to yourself as a way to pull yourself out of the chaos that often predominates modern life and to just sit and listen has so many positive effects that will not only make you feel better, they will ripple out into every aspect of your life and ultimately benefit not only you, but the people around you.

Self Awareness

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From the years of treating patients, one of the things that I really believe is a huge contributor to our physical health as well as our mental health is dealing with our demons. I use the word demons, because that is what they can become, haunting us and making us miserable. Everyone has difficult, painful and traumatic experiences in their lives. But the way to have a happy life I believe is not to wish for an easy existence, but to learn how to handle difficulties when they arise so that they can be processed appropriately and let go so that they do not become demons from our past that haunt us in our present.

This ability to really look at ourselves and self reflect is not easy, and this important work is not something that is taught to us as children in schools, so finding a way to work through these difficult experiences can be daunting. The tools that will work will not be the same for everyone, but this is some of the most important work we can do in our lives and the work that will help us to be happier beings and enjoy our time on this beautiful planet.

 

Sources

This excellent (and hilarious) video from Shawn Achor speaking at TED about happiness and our brains.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXy__kBVq1M

 


Love, Support & Illness

By Emma Suttie, D.Ac, AP

Disease is not just about the body. It is literally an imbalance, a disruption of the flow, a loss in the state of equilibrium that keeps us healthy and balanced human beings.

One of the reasons that Chinese medicine is so effective and why I fell so deeply in love with it is the beautiful and poetic way in which it sees the body and the tools it gives us to bring it back to health when it is in a diseased state. It is a holistic system, everything working synergistically, nothing left out. Everything is important, and has an impact, so we must take care of not only the entire organism, but the environment in which it lives, the stimulus that comes in, the emotions that are felt and so forth. Everything that is experienced has an impact, so we strive for balance - which is no small task in an unbalanced world.

Looking at health in this schema, we must step back and look at things with a wider perspective. No longer is health about the physical processes of our bodies, the levels of our blood, or the food we ingest. We must consider the entire life experience and discern what is out of balance so we might attempt to regain that balance once again. In this way the practitioner of Chinese medicine acts as teacher, helping to instruct patients on how to live (the Tao) so that they are empowered and participants in their health and healing and can use that knowledge to prevent imbalances in the future. It is a preventative medicine.

Love

In my questioning one of the things I ask is about the relationships you have in your life. Your friends, your spouse, your children, your boss. Do you have love in your life? Where is it coming from? Love is an incredibly important part of life, and integral to health. I believe it to be an essential part of the healing process, not just physical, but on every level. Knowing that there are people (or pets) out there who want you to be well and have your best interests at heart is just as important as acupuncture, herbs, what you eat and if you meditate or go to yoga.

Love, Support & Illness : Chinese Medicine Living

Support

Support takes it a step further. It is love with a little extra juice. Being in a loving relationship or having wonderful friends is important for all aspects of our lives, and has been proven to improve health and keep the immune system strong. Support is having people in your life that believe in what you are doing, and are helping to hold you up while you are doing it.

Let me give you a couple of examples...

A patient is struggling with a serious disease (the seriousness is directly proportional to the severity of the imbalance). Lets say cancer. Their Western MD is advocating chemotherapy, and so is their family. After several rounds, the patient is feeling terrible and would like to explore other options. They discontinue chemo and start doing reiki, acupuncture and herbs. The patient's oncologist thinks this is a terrible idea. The family also does not support their decision and every time they come home from a session, their husband and children tell them how foolish they are and how irresponsible it is of them to not do conventional treatment. There is no support system to help this person to heal, and the stress created depresses the immune system which is already working at beyond capacity. The lack of support from this persons family is making it more difficult for the patient to regain the balance she needs to get back to health and thus, will continue to be sick.

A patient struggles with IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) which makes being at their incredibly stressful job difficult and uncomfortable. They go home at night to a spouse who is angry and depressed. This makes being at home, when the patient needs to rest and recharge, stressful as well. After a long day this patient often goes home to fights and discord due to his spouses unhappiness. In an attempt to avoid the situation, this patient throws himself into work which exacerbates his condition. It gets worse until he periodically has to go to the hospital for a few days to recover enough so that he can return to work.

And it is not just patients... we all need support...

Love, Support & Illness : Chinese Medicine Living

 

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One very powerful lesson that I have learned in my ten years of practice is that life is not easy. For anyone. People are struggling, and most are trying their best to live life with dignity, and a little grace. I have been amazed at the difficult things that people struggle with on a daily basis, from digestive problems, to pain to depression to abuse. There is a constant pressure on everyone to go to work, pay the bills and balance their personal and professional lives which seems to get harder with every passing year.  Chinese medicine is all about balance in all things, but we are living more and more unbalanced lives which is why the wisdom of this medicine is so valuable and why I want to share it. We all need love. We need to let it out and allow it to come in. It helps keep us healthy and happy so that we have the energy to keep going. But we also need support. No one gets through life alone. Or illness. We are living in a world that has become increasingly connected through technology, but we only seem to be more isolated. Our connections to each other are vital to our health and well being. Loving and supporting each other through good and bad times is how we are all going to make it. Love and support is the difference between life living you and you living your life to its fullest potential, being a happy, healthy and balanced being, and that is what I wish for you. :)

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